Take Your Time - Don't Pressure Your Date or Let Them Pressure You

by A. Almodova
(Tucson )

In 1 Corinthians 13 the first description of love Paul uses is "Love is patient". I don't think it was by accident that he listed this first in the line items of love. It is so easy to get caught up in the excitement of a new relationship, and even though things may not be exhilarating physically, they may just be going past the speed limit emotionally.

He or she might be very attractive to you and instead of really looking inside at their heart you are only seeing the outward part of the person, and never really weighing in your mind the real lasting qualities like their relationships with God and others around them, loyalty, kindness, respect, selflessness, and intelligence.

Although you may be with a really attractive person physically, and even there mannerisms appeal to you, pull back on the reigns, and ask God to show you through time what this person is all about, then, if you still like them, and can handle all the good, and all the bad, seek premarital counseling.

Jeremiah 17:9 NIV says, "The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?" God gave us a brain to think with. Let's use our minds to light the way for our hearts, instead of using our hearts and turning off our brains.