Step Back to Take it Slow

by Cheryl
(Canada)

When you are friends with a guy, be sure not to hang out on a daily basis as this can move your friendship to areas you want to avoid. That being said, I hung out with a guy and he expressed he liked me however was not ready to take it to the next level - a relationship. We agreed to improve ourselves in our walk with God and to pray for God's will (i.e. whether this was meant to be something or not).

Well, we continued hanging out lots and it got to a point where I felt very frustrated as I didn't know where I stood. So I stepped back and didn't answer his texts or phone calls since it became obvious he was NOT committed to me.

For you girls who are in a similar situation, don't try to rush him or tell him you don't want to see him again. Be wise with your words and be respectful. Simply be thankful for your friendship and keep your eyes open for if another guy comes into your life. Be careful not to wait for him for it could be months or even years. Are you willing to wait? What if he realizes he doesn't want to move it forward in a year and you have been waiting for him? Never tell him you'll wait for him, because he could prolong your waiting and you could miss an opportunity in meeting another guy.

We are Princesses and need to be pursued, for all we know, God could have placed a particular man in our lives for a season so we could learn from each other. If you're in a similar situation always remember that he's not yours, you have no ties to each other and I encourage you to keep it that way for your emotion's sake.