Marriage Advice
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Looking for marriage advice to improve your marriage?

We've put together some marriage advice ideas that we hope you will find helpful.

What works for one couple may not help another. If some of these ideas don't meet your needs, just skip them.

We’ve been married for almost 20 years. We also have the benefit of being surrounded by several couples that have been married for as long as us, or longer. Having parents that have been married for nearly 60 years doesn't hurt either.

We have plenty of marriage experience to draw from in giving this marriage advice, although most will come directly from our own relationship.

You may find that some of our marriage advice seems rather simplistic. To be honest, you're right. None of these tips are very difficult. The most difficult thing about any of our recommendations is that you actually have to put them in to practice…regularly!

A good marriage takes work, and more of the same.

We won’t promise that you won’t still have some arguments, or say some hurtful things in the future. Unfortunately as long as we are in our earth suits we are prone to earthly failings. We recommend you get over it and move on.

It’s much more fun getting along than getting a pillow and a blanket for the sofa anyway. ☺

Marriage advice you can live by…

• Pray together – Not just at meal time. We pray together every day before one of us walks out the door to go to work. We also pray at night before we go to sleep. These are minimum prayer times. You should find at least one or two other times to pray together each day if possible. There is always someone or something to pray about so this should not be a difficult thing. Of all the marriage advice you’ll ever receive from anyone, please don’t ever forget to place prayer at the top of your list.

• Kiss often – This should be an easy thing to do and something you should not have to be reminded about. We kiss every day before one of us walks out the door to go to work. We kiss as soon as we see each other anytime we meet. We kiss at bedtime every night before we say goodnight. Show one another that your relationship is a priority even above your children. Greet each other with a kiss before engaging with the rest of your family.

  The "kiss often" marriage advice is very important and you should not neglect this ever!

• Leave room for grace - You generally have no idea what your spouse has experienced on any given day when you are apart. It's so very easy to come together and fall into an argument over something that has nothing to do with anything. Work on keeping your cool and seeing things from your spouse’s perspective. We think this is awesome marriage advice and it will take you a long ways towards having a good marriage.

• Don't take each other for granted - Men, your wife is not your mother or your maid. Women, your husband is not a fairy tale prince; he will make mistakes. Work together to encourage one another. Speak with gentleness and love to your spouse. Your spouse deserves your respect and should return it to you as well.

• Talk and Listen – This is so very important. Women have a strong desire to have meaningful communication with their husbands. Men need to give focused attention to what is being spoken and participate in the conversation; not just grunt. Active listening is difficult for some men so this may be the toughest item on the list.

• Men – Turn off the TV when your wife is speaking to you. Stop whatever you are doing and give her your full attention. Is the ball game really going to make a difference on an eternal level? Your relationship with your wife will! You know you can’t focus on more than one thing at a time anyway. ☺
• Women – Have some consideration when picking your conversation times. Try not to choose to have a heavy discussion during the 4th quarter of a ball game. Give him a break if the topic can wait a few minutes. You’ll both be happier with your discussion. ☺

• Worship Together – Attend weekly worship services together. It draws you nearer together and nearer to God.

• Hold hands during prayer – Whenever you pray, hold hands. It sounds so simple and yet it builds a beautiful bond. Don’t forget to do this every time you pray.

• Eat meals together as a family – We are amazed at how many people do not eat meals together as a family. This is a bit of simple marriage advice that is important to your entire family. Sharing meals together as a family encourages good communication within the family and will have a positive impact on the marriage relationship. You also might develop a better relationship with your children! Make time to have meals together as a family.

• Date Night – Most young couples think they are going to have a date night 1-2 times per week when they first get married. That sounds so wonderful! Once they have children and wake up, that disappears and they are lucky if they go on a date once in 3 months. Work hard to have a date night at least once per month. It will help keep things fresh. It doesn't have to be elaborate, just some time together...without the kids!

• Marriage Conference – We are great fans of the Family Life Marriage Conferences. If these are ever available to you we recommend you find a way to attend. We make a habit of attending one every 4-5 years and it has always blessed our marriage. There are many other good marriage conferences available from other organizations that you can also consider attending. Marriage conferences provide wonderful marriage advice from many experts on the subject.
  Your marriage is never so good that a marriage conference can’t help make it just a bit better!

• Spiritual Leadership – Men, whether you like it or not it’s your responsibility to be the spiritual leaders in your home. When you take on this role as God intended you will see great things begin to happen in your life. Your family home will become more peaceful, and relationships will grow stronger. Some may think this is a bit out of scope for marriage advice but if you give it a try we believe you’ll notice a difference in your marriage relationship.

We hope this marriage advice has been useful to you. If you have marriage advice and would like to share your ideas, please Contact Us and we'll look into incorporating your marriage advice into this page. Blessings to you all!

Remember, a good marriage doesn't just happen. A good marriage takes work!

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