God First, Relationship Second

by Cher
(Canada)

God definitely can make your relationship with your boyfriend/girlfriend so beautiful when you put him first.

Before I began to date my boyfriend we were good friends. We met for the first time in church one day last summer and I invited him to a BBQ at my parents as my family was putting it on. I didn't really think anything of him except he was cute. Turns out he came and at the end of the BBQ I was cleaning up. I was tired but pushed myself to clean and as I was clearing the picnic table he came and began to wipe the table for me...like EVERY spot! He folded the table cloth so nicely I thought, "hmmm, there is something amazing about him." I saw him in passing once in awhile at church and soon didn't see him anymore. I began to have a liking for another guy and spent time with him but became frustrated as I realized I was pursuing him and he wasn't pursuing me.

One day as he and I were parking my car on a popular street near church to go for lunch with friends, he saw the guy who helped me clean up at the BBQ and waved. I got out and we both said hi. As I turned to walk away with the other guy our eyes lingered for a brief moment, there was something about him. I didn't see him for a couple months as he flew back home. Soon I saw him again and he initiated to hang out. We hung out in groups. With time he asked to date me. I didn't have a peace and was nervous so said not yet. He sent me a text msg and let me know that his feelings for me hadn't changed though I wasn't ready and he still wanted me. Two weeks later after a lot of prayer, counsel and reading God's word I said Yes.

He called my dad as I requested and asked for permission in which my dad said he could. He said the wait for me was worth it. We went on our first date to a breakfast place then went people watching at a nearby beach. After sitting and talking for awhile, he asked if he could put his arm around me and I said he could. I don't know what the future holds but we both have given our relationship to God and we both want His will.

When you give God your relationship, not just in words but in your heart...it's amazing! The main point I want to share through this is the importance of allowing God to be your first love and your boyfriend/girlfriend being your second love. God should always come first in any relationship i.e. sibling, parent, friend, date...as he orchestrates such beautiful relationships! The more I put him first, the more beautiful my relationship with my boyfriend becomes.